Makah Days is almost here and I can’t wait for the festivities. I must admit, I am looking forward to the salmon the most but am also interested to hear the songs and watch the dancing. We plan to leave Bend Thursday evening, spend the night somewhere north of Vancouver, and then drive the rest of the way Friday. We have planned five days at the Cape Resort, of which the first two days will be spent taking part in the festival, as well as exploring the town and visiting the museum. After that I’d like to do a few hikes along the coast, as well as drive down to Lake Ozette and take the walk out to the beach from there. In the days to come I will post of our trip as well as share pictures of the festivities and natural beauty of the area.

A Death in the Family

My father-in-law died Wednesday morning. He was having a conversation with his care giver when she noticed that he had stopped talking. When she turned around to check on him, she discovered that he had stopped breathing. CPR was initiated, an ambulance was dispatched. The staff at the facility where he lived tried to revive him but he never came back. Ken was seventy-six years old and his health had been declining for some time, but this still came as a shock to all of us who knew him. 

My wife called me as soon as she heard. At that point all she knew was that he’d been unresponsive for ten minutes, but that an ambulance was on the way. There was still hope at that point. Maybe they could save him.

I met my wife at the hospital an hour later, but by then it was already too late. Ken never regained consciousness. I found my wife and mother in law together in a small waiting room. The hospital chaplain was there as well. He asked if we wanted to see the body. My wife was unsure, my mother in law too distraught to make a decision. They ultimately decided that they did want to see him. 

The chaplain entered the room first with my wife and mother in law following. Ken lay on a gurney, his head tilted back as if he were looking up to the ceiling, or to heaven. His face was unshaven, his flesh drained of all color. My mother in law touched him and immediately pulled her hand away. My wife tried to look at him but couldn’t do it. She turned to the side, her chest convulsing, eyes now focused on the floor. 

Maybe it was good that we saw him, to know that it wasn’t a mistake, to see for ourselves that he was truly gone. But that image is one that I may never be able to erase. My father in  law when he had his health was a vigorous man, full of life and laughter. This final image had none of these things.

I’ve been married for twenty years. When I first met my father in law he was just a little older than I am now. Twenty years. Death is inevitable, and yet we spend our entire lives pretending it doesn’t exist. I’ve got twenty years to keep pretending. Is that enough?

The Whalesinger’s Daughter

As I mentioned in my last post, I am currently at work on my first novel, tentatively titled “The Whalesinger’s Daughter”. I have written a number of short stories, most of which have been published (see the publications tab on the main menu), but this is my first go at long form fiction, and I must say it has been a revelation. Where short stories constrict, novels unleash. I am half way through the first revision, and have so far found the entire experience exhilarating. Unlike short stories, a novel allows you to deal with multiple themes at the same time. Those that have risen to the top in this project are: 1)The Idea of Belonging: we all want to feel that we are part of a group, but in this modern age, the old divisions based on race, religion and place of origin have begun to blur. Your grandfather may have been Norwegian (or Chinese, or Italian) but that doesn’t make you Norwegian (or Chinese, or Italian). You can read about these places and the cultures that took root there, but unless you grew up in these cultures, you can never truly call them your own. Absent this built in sense of communal identity, we must each seek out those groups to which we can comfortably belong. 2)Are we ¬†defined by the culture we inhabit, or is that culture defined by those that inhabit it? The answer to this question is yes and both cases. We are all influenced by the culture within which we live, but that culture also pushes back on us, changing us in ways that we may not even be aware of. 3)The power of family to shape us cannot be underestimated.

These are only a few of the themes and idea that I am playing with in this work. I will give more details later, as well as a full synopsis. I don’t know if the picture below will end up being the cover or not, but the image definitely conveys the mood of the novel.